Book: The Attachment Connection – Parenting a Secure & Confident Child Using the Science of Attachment Theory Ruth P. Newton, PH.D, New Harbinger Publications, Inc. 2008.

How much is too much attention to my Newborn?

A client of mine raised a very interesting concern…she queried if she gave her 4 week old baby too much attention by picking her up, holding her and giving her lots of attention when she cried would she be raising a child who became too attached to her. This is an issue many new mums face.

An excerpt from Ruth Newton’s book, The Attachment Connection has some great guidance on this matter. Ruth P Newton, PH.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist in San Diego specialising in attachment and affect regulation in the developing child.

“For the newborn, here are some of the ways you can feel reassured that your attunement is on the secure attachment track; they all support your baby’s brain development:

  • Hold your baby or have your baby on your body as much as possible; your baby will like your smell and the warm cosy feelings of your body.
  • Listen to your baby’s communications, so you can learn your baby’s unique expressions and characteristics; your baby will like the little space you give her to respond to you.
  • Gaze at your baby, face-to-face; make eye contact and respond to your baby’s expressions; your baby will love looking at your face and will try to imitate your facial expressions.
  • Talk with your baby while you are interacting with her; your baby will love the different intonations and inflections in your voice.
  • Respond with sensitivity to your baby’s needs; your caring voice and gentle touching while you are feeding, changing, and/or soothing her will indicate to her that you understand she is hungry, needs a diaper change, or is not feeling so good.
  • Play with your baby through voicing, tummy rubbing, head stroking, humming, and/or walking with her, so she can take a look around; your baby will begin to be interested in a slightly wider world as she moves through the newborn period.”

The Attachment Connection – Parenting a Secure & Confident Child Using the Science of Attachment Theory Ruth P. Newton, PH.D, New Harbinger Publications, Inc. 2008.